So here is the thing- ‘It is complicated’ Isn’t that the status on most of facebook’s About page 🙂 True isn’t it?
So I was working today on the plot for my new book. Researching required me to learn about dating in the modern world. So, like I always do with my books, I went to the source.
I started asking questions, (In a sly way), trying to figure out the modern thoughts of past people. (Pun intended)
My findings were quite the eye opener for a sheltered lady like myself. But what I heard, it does hold its volume in a crowded room. Modern love is in one way just like the movies. ‘You meet me, I meet you, we have our drama but we get married’ sounds familiar to a few of you doesn’t it?’ Sure does.
But for most, your mind is probably going through those breakups that left you in a puddle, or got you drunk one night (you don’t want to remember those) or maybe that special one that got away and left you listening to Passenger ‘hearts on fire’.
Or remember that one, who said all the right words and disappeared into dust after you responded in more ways than text (Catch my meaning).
Oh, okay then, I will stop.
Let us not talk about that one! How about the ones you met on a dating site? All the lines perfect but wait, they are NOT who they claim to be? (Sorry guys, I feel for you)
Then there are the emotionally detached ones, who don’t know what they want. It is like hot and cold water, the perfect blend and you won’t get out of the shower.
But I am not just referring to you guys, I am also talking about the ones who want to make the world better (the naive changers) ‘I can change her mind’, ‘I can make him want more.’ Sounds familiar? (Guilty)
Sorry to tell you all, but Romance in the Modern world is not easy. It is more difficult than riding a motorbike, but like the throttle of that engine as it flies through the traffic and you feel like you are flying, it can be one hell of a ride.
Society has now set standards. You can be matched up to your perfect somebody by AI, and a few short questions. (Talk about easy) Might as well just see what is out there. You meet, greet, or go running. Sometimes you have those goo eyed moments where it is ‘Christian Grey in the house’ (Hola ladies). Or a Meghan Fox with the bluest eyes you have ever seen (Whoa there men, control yourselves.)
Sad thing about that picture? Even those who spend 16 hours in their office can find that ‘quality’ love, you know the superficial kind where you just swipe right.
Who said we need dating tables, and parties, or those fancy dinners we go to.
Galas, remember those? Well, those ones are even more rare than a persons dating history. (I am referring to the actual Boyfriend, girlfriend kind. Not the ‘I don’t want a relationship, let’s keep it casual one’).
All you need is a really good camera and a device with a fast internet connection.
Match made in heaven, or is it? The answer is simple, it depends on you. What you are searching for, when you search for it. (Timing is everything people) It is a predators world. The strong rise and the weak wither to nothing but crumbs. (tasty treats, yum)
In the older times, it was similar except people didn’t have phones. And cars weren’t a must have.
Now? We can just access the emotion (Love) from a phone.(In case you didn’t know, A phone can drop and break and you can go to a shop and pick up a new one) Just saying.
No more going out on dates, just video call. No more leaving your comfort zone, just google a dating site (Duh).
Don’t bother going shopping after work, spending hundreds of dollars on a fancy new outfit to attract the wanted attention because it is a video call and by the time they meet you, you’ll have already cracked all imperfections on a live camera. (Save for a trip to Prague)
Don’t misread my words, and think I don’t like the new way of the world. I love it.
I can’t not shop online, I can’t even write a blog without the internet. One better- I would have never have became an Author, with 9 books published and a blog with over 2000 followers.
So believe it when I tell you that I love the internet.
But what about the ways most use it to find love? (That one is touchy for a single person like myself)
People actually find quality relationships on the internet. I mean have you guys seen how many dating apps are there? I have. There are hundreds if not more (I HOPE NOT).
Hey! Let us not judge, it works.
They even have ones specialized for your needs. Have any hidden fantasies, you want to come true? There is a dating app for that.
Want some one night loving? There is an app for that too.
Looking for your soulmate? YUP, you guessed right. There is an app for that. (PLENTY)
But I get back to my question, what is LOVE IN THE MODERN WORLD
I am dying to hear what IS your impression of love is, in this modern world. SO DROP THOSE COMMENTS AND WRITE THOSE EMAILS, INSPIRE ME.